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Love Possessiveness Test (RPI)

How possessive are you in love? Measure control, jealousy, emotional dependence, and relationship insecurity to see the boundaries behind your attachment.

40 questions 5–8 minTested 40 times

About This Test

Possessiveness in love is something nearly everyone experiences. Healthy concern is a natural part of caring, but excessive control, jealousy, and insecurity can weigh a relationship down and even suffocate both partners.

This test (Romantic Possessiveness Index, RPI) is designed based on Attachment Theory and research on jealousy psychology. It measures your possessiveness across four dimensions: control, jealousy, emotional dependence, and relationship insecurity.

Answer intuitively and honestly, without trying to look good. The result will tell you whether you are the Independent, Healthy, Tense, or Controlling type, along with your score on each dimension and targeted advice.

How It Works

  1. 1There are 40 questions, each describing a feeling or behavior in love. Answer with your first instinct and don't overthink.
  2. 2Use the 5-point scale: strongly disagree, disagree, neutral, agree, strongly agree. The more it matches your real situation, the higher the score.
  3. 3Some items are reverse-scored to prevent a habitual response pattern and keep the result honest.
  4. 4Once you finish, a report is generated with your overall type, your four dimension scores, and targeted advice. You can view it or share it with your partner.

Why Take It

Understand your attachment style

Discover where your possessiveness comes from — a lack of security or a controlling tendency — so you can manage your relationship more consciously.

Improve how you relate

Use your four dimension scores and advice to find starting points for communication and reduce friction caused by misunderstanding and control.

Know yourself even when single

Even if you're currently single, you can recognize potential tendencies in future relationships and build healthy boundaries early.

Results Preview

See how possessive you are in love

Independent · Very Low Possessiveness
You give your partner abundant freedom
Healthy · Moderate Possessiveness
The right balance of closeness and independence
Tense · Higher Possessiveness
Easily insecure, needing more security
Controlling · Very High Possessiveness
Intense possessiveness may strain the relationship
4 Glossary
Control — Wanting to monitor your partner's whereabouts, social life, and decisions, using control to feel safe.
Jealousy — Easily jealous, overthinking, or uneasy about your partner's friendships and past.
Emotional Dependence — Relying on your partner as your main emotional anchor, overly dependent in mood and daily life.
Relationship Insecurity — Lacking security in the relationship, often fearing abandonment or feeling unloved.

FAQ

Is the result scientifically valid?

This possessiveness scale is designed based on Attachment Theory and research on jealousy psychology, refined for reliability and validity, giving it solid scientific reference value. However, no online test can replace professional counseling — take the result as a tool for self-understanding.

Does a high score mean I'm unfit for love?

Not at all. A moderate level of possessiveness is a normal expression of love and shows you value the relationship. A high score more often means your sense of security needs attention, or some interaction patterns need adjusting — it doesn't mean you're unfit.

How long does the test take?

There are 40 questions, each answered by intuition. Most people finish and get their report within 5 to 8 minutes.

Will my privacy be saved?

No. All calculation happens in your browser; we do not collect, store, or upload any of your answers. Please answer freely.

Can my partner and I compare results?

Yes! That's one of the best parts of this test. Use the share feature to send a link with your result to your partner, invite them to take it too, and compare — it helps you understand each other better.

Which dimension best reflects possessiveness?

Control (CD) and Jealousy (JI) are the most direct indicators of visible possessive behavior, while Emotional Dependence (ED) and Relationship Insecurity (RI) reflect the inner drivers. Together the four dimensions form a complete picture.

What's the value in taking it as a couple?

Taking it together presents each person's emotional patterns objectively, avoiding misunderstandings caused by subjective feelings. Knowing each other's scores and tendencies helps you communicate and improve the relationship more effectively.

If I get the Controlling type, how do I change?

Behind a high controlling score is often deep insecurity. Start by noticing your emotional triggers, build independent self-worth and hobbies, and develop open, honest communication with your partner. Seek professional counseling if needed.

Why are some questions reverse-scored?

Reverse-scored items prevent you from habitually answering in one direction, keeping the result honest. For example, if you strongly agree with "I don't need to know my partner's finances," it means your possessiveness there is very low.

Is this test suitable for single people?

Very much so. Even if you're single, understanding your emotional patterns matters. This test helps you recognize potential tendencies in intimate relationships and maintain healthy boundaries when you build one.